If you’ve been reading this blog for some time, you may be pretty familiar with Veer, my nephew. The first of the next generation. Our brilliant little scientist who now runs his own channel on YouTube.
Back when I lived in the Bay Area, I spent nearly every weekend in Monterey/Salinas. Watching this little baby develop into the big 6-year old he is now.
So it’s weird that he keeps growing and developing when I’m not around to watch it happen.
But thankfully, we’ve got Facetime and other forms of technology to keep us in the loop. Yesterday, Ankur and I Facetimed the Bajaj Juniors and got to hear about his first visit from the tooth fairy.
$5. A toothbrush. And a note.
That’s a dedicated tooth fairy.
Anyway, our short conversation with him flooded me with ALL the emotions. I was brought back to so many of our shared memories and experiences.
Prior to being Veer’s mama, Bhabhi was a teacher.
So it made sense that she brought all the “best practices of teaching” into their home.
Positive reinforcement, constant conversations around the WHYs and WHY NOTs, and teaching Veer how to effectively communicate his wants and needs.
Encouraging his persistence and effort with quick and specific feedback.
“You are doing it!”
“Oh wooooow. Look at you read that word!”
“GOOD JOB Veer! Keep going!”
After some time, these encouragements and reassuring expressions were eventually written into the wiring of Veer’s brain.
You could be in the middle of playing basketball with him and, all of a sudden, if the ball even skimmed the rim of his Fisher-Price basketball net, you would see him throw his little toddler hands up in the air and scream, “Oh wooooooow!”
During a difficult time finishing up dinner, he would look up at me and say, “Good job Veer-u!” as he polished off another slice of cucumber.
Any time something was frustrating for him, he would mimic the voices of his parents and say, “Keep going!” or “You can do it!”
It was like the action (A) and the encouragement (B) were no longer two distinct things.
He was doing A. So he gave himself B.
He didn’t need anyone to provide B for him.
His brain had been wired to know that A and B went hand-in-hand.
And he didn’t need to wait for his mama or papa to give him B anymore.
He just knew that if he was attempting to do A, B should be right there to help with A.
I hope that that never changes.
I hope he will always find the support and encouragement he needs within himself.
It’s something that I always admired about my now-6-year-old nephew. Something I wish I did more of myself. Encouraging myself and telling myself I CAN.
There are some lessons that only a toddler can teach you.
And I’m so lucky to have had this one in my life.
Questions of the Day:
- Do you have/Have you had a toddler in your life that’s teaching you how to live your best life?
- What are some ways you reflect and give yourself the positive pep talk you need?