Good morning and happyyyyyyy Friday.

The first words out of Ishu’s mouth this morning were, “Pressure, drip drip drip.”

In case you were wondering if we were still obsessed with Encanto over here.

Yes. Yes very much.

Even yesterday, during my therapy session, I realize that I’ve probably brought up Encanto at least once in every session since I first watched the movie.

Yesterday, we were talking about what a healthy sense of worth is. I know that – despite my logical brain telling me that everyone is worthy simply by BEING – there is this deep-rooted belief I’ve got that worthiness comes from DOING X, Y, and Z. And if I don’t do X, Y, Z, am I even a good mother? A good wife? A good daughter? Family member?

The scene I brought up yesterday was when Isabella freaks out at Mirabel screaming, “I DIDN’T EVEN WANT TO MARRY HIM. I WAS DOING IT FOR THE FAMILY!”

Let me be clear that I very much wanted to marry Ankur and I wasn’t doing THAT for the family.

But there are so many things that I do out of obligation. If I don’t do X, that makes me a bad sister. If I don’t do Y, that means I’m not fulfilling my role as a mother.

And, somewhere along the way, I’ve lost sight of who I am.

So, yeah, anyway, that’s some deep stuff for a Friday morning that we don’t need to get into. But, if you’ve seen the movie (which, if you haven’t yet, why the heck not?!), you can understand why it’s something I bring up in therapy often.

Fortunately for me, my therapist plays along because she, too, has seen the movie. And she, too, sees how it parallels so many family dynamics. Before ending one of our sessions, she said something like, “Okay, but don’t try to be a Luisa.” And it made me laugh because she’s totally speaking my language.

With that being said, I’m signing off. The coffee has hit and is doing its job, so Ishu and I are gonna go dance around to “Pressure, drip drip drip.”

Hope you all have a happy Friday and a happy weekend!