One is telling me, “Yes. Ease into your day. Relax. You’ve got nowhere to be but here.”
And the other one is screaming, “Get up! Get up! You only have today. Let’s be productive!”
This has always been an issue for me and I know I’m not alone in this. That post got a lot of responses like “Me too!” and “This is my LIFE.”
When there are no events or obligations to attend to, I feel like my body goes into “analysis paralysis” mode and I can’t decide what I want to do with all the time.
So, I will sit down, coffee in hand, and start writing out a list of things that would be nice to get done. And, as the list gets longer, I start panicking and feel this urgency to get up and start moving.
This leaves me feeling neither productive nor relaxed.
This weekend was different for some reason.
On Saturday, I listened to the first voice.
And, on Sunday, I listened to the other one.
On Saturday, I started my morning by going to Starbucks and then remained bundled up at home for a few hours.
And, on Sunday, I decided to unpack the contents of each of my drawers in the house so I could do some fall/winter cleaning.
So this morning, when I woke up, I felt both relaxed and productive.
I sat here for a few minutes this morning, trying to figure out why this weekend felt different. I’ve been trying to analyze my behavior so when something FEELS right, I can replicate it.
And I think the big thing that it boils down to is waking up and setting my intention for the day.
It takes no more than 5 minutes to tune into my body and ask it how it would like to spend the day. How does it want to feel? Does it want to feel relaxed and balanced and meditative? Or does it want to feel challenged, pushed to the brink of discomfort so it can grow and develop?
On Saturday, I sat silently for a few minutes and asked my body what it needed. I knew I needed a few hours to recover and reset. And, somehow, because I tuned in to my body and literally asked what it would like from me, it became that much easier to sit down on the couch and ignore those urgings to get up and get moving.
Every time a negative thought arrived and told me I wasn’t doing enough with my time, I quietly responded, “My body needs this. It has asked me to give it this today. So I am allowing it to happen.”
I was never a believer in setting your intentions. Sure, I followed the masses and created vision boards and made NY resolutions year after year. But, I didn’t understand how writing something down on a piece of paper was suddenly going to provide me with the wisdom and the knowledge to acquire what I wanted.
But here it is.
Now I understand.
It’s not about making a beautiful, picture and glitter-filled vision board to plaster on your wall.
It’s about tuning in to your body and soul and determining what it is that you really want.
How do you want to feel? What would bring you happiness and joy?
And then, from there, your every step and your every action should line up with that feeling.
Let’s say I wake up and decide that I want to feel relaxed and meditative that day.
Later in the afternoon, a friend texts me and suggests that we go out that evening and get a few drinks and appetizers at a local restaurant.
I ask myself, “Will this help me feel relaxed and meditative?”
Drinks and appetizers will derail my hard work and make me feel like crap. I won’t feel relaxed. I’ll feel upset with myself.
But, by starting my day with an intention, I am able to easily say “no” to the things that don’t line up with how I want to feel.
Some days, I tune into my body and I want to feel connected and adventurous. Those are the days where a happy hour is calling my name.
But a happy hour on a day where my body is asking to feel calm and introspective doesn’t make sense.
Every day is different from the one before. And we rush into our days without knowing what we want it to look like. This makes it easy to mindlessly say ‘yes’ to the things that don’t bring us happiness.
But carving out a few minutes each morning to check in with yourself can make all the difference. It will make it easier to say “no” to the things that don’t serve you. And it will give you that resounding YES in your inner core when something feels right.
It all lies in the ability to clear your head, get heart-centered, and ask your body how you want to spend the day.
Questions of the Day:
- Do you set daily intentions?
- How do you check in with yourself? And how often? What does that look like?